The Maid of honor cheat sheet
How to Be the Bride’s Ride-or-Die Without Losing Your Damn Mind
So you said yes.
Not to the dress — to the bride. To being her number one, her hype women, her spreadsheet queen, emotional support human with a flask in one hand and a Tide pen in the other.
First of all: congratulations!
Second of all: it’s a lot.
If you’re wondering how to show up fully for your best girl without turning in to a human checklist, here’s your go-to guide. Think of it as the Maid of Honor job description nobody gave you — but absolutely should have.
Be her calm in the group chat storm
When it comes to bridesmaid group chats, chaos is inevitable. One person’s allergic to glitter. One wants to Venmo in “installments.” One only replies with GIFs.
Your job: keep it cute, keep it moving. Reply to the bride separately if needed. Translate passive-aggressive “sounds good:)” texts into plain English. Be the buffer and the bridge.
Know what actually matters to her
Not every bride wants a Vegas bender or a blush-and-gold aesthetic. Ask her what she actually wants — and listen. Write it down. Repeat it back.
Is she a brunch-and-backyard girl? Or a tequila-and-dance floor bride? Find her lane, stay in it, and make sure everyone else does too.
What’s not your job (Repeat after me)
Personally booking a 12-person Airbnb with 8 different budgets and zero help - But you can take the lead on research, send a few solid options and gently suggest people Venmo on time like adults.
Mediating a passive-aggressive tulle related argument - But you can redirect everyone back to what the bride wants and remind them that no one has ever died from wearing the backup dress.
Convincing the flower girl to stop eating her basket petals - But you can distract her with a mini snack or a sticker and let someone with actually custody take it from there.
Wearing a full face of makeup at 7 am with a smile - But you can show up in sweats, bring caffeine, and hype the bride like you’ve been training for this moment your whole life.
Explaining why her cousin ghosted in 2017 isn’t in the bridal party - But you can pivot awkward convos like a pro and keep the bride out of the drama spiral.
Protect your peace. Protect the bride’s peace. That’s the gig.
Feed her. Literally.
There will be days when she forgets to eat. You are not one of those days. Whether it’s wedding morning, dress shopping, or post-bach recovery — be the girl with the protein bar, the emergency fries and the Diet Coke.
No one’s ever said, “Wow, I wish my Maid of Honor brought less ranch.”
Handle the weird stuff So she doesn’t have to
She doesn’t need to know her great aunt tried to bring her chihuahua to the reception. Or that someone RSVP’d “maybe” to the bach party. Or that the groomsman forgot his shirt and thinks flannel counts.
You job: filter the chaos. Bring her only what needs her attention. Let her enjoy the ride — you’re steering the drama bus.
Hype her up — All the way
This isn’t just about speeches and toasts. It’s about the “YOU LOOK HOT” texts, the “I’ll handle it” reassurance and the “remember who you are” pep talks when she’s overwhelmed.
You don’t have to do everything. You just have to be everything she needs.
BONUS: maid of honor wedding day survival kit
You’ll want these in your bag- trust us.
Blotting sheets
Bobby pins
Deodorant & perfume
Mini sewing kit
Breath mints
Bandaids (heels will be tested)
Pain reliever
Lip gloss (hers AND yours)
Snacks (emotional support Cheez-Its encouraged)
A printed copy of her vows. Just in case.
Tissues
Pack like the MVP you are.
Real Talk, babe
You don’t have to be perfect. You’re not her wedding planner, therapist, or stylist (unless you actually are, in which case…bless you). You’re her person. She asked you for a reason — not because you have a label makers, but because she trusts you with her heart. That’s the job. And you’re gonna crush it.
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