if one more person asks about the wedding
Okay. Let’s talk.
If you’re engaged right now and it’s the holidays, there is a very specific kind of exhaustion that comes with that. You walk into a room and before you can even grab a drink, someone’s already like:
“So… how’s the wedding planning going?”
And at first you’re like, Aw, cute, they’re excited.
But by the fifth time? You’re smiling through it while internally screaming.
Because here’s the thing — you’re not just planning a wedding. You’re navigating family, expectations, opinions, timelines, and about a million questions you don’t have answers to yet… all while trying to enjoy the holidays like a normal human.
The Questions Add Up Fast
Most people mean well. Truly. But the questions come rapid-fire:
“Have you picked a date yet?”
“Do you have a venue?”
“What colors are you doing?”
“Are you doing something big or small?”
And suddenly it feels like everyone expects you to have a full Pinterest board, a confirmed guest count, and a vibe nailed down — when maybe all you’ve done is say yes and survive December.
Not having answers doesn’t mean you’re behind. It just means you’re newly engaged.
You Don’t Owe Anyone a Planning Update
This is your reminder: you do not owe anyone details.
You are fully allowed to say:
“We’re just enjoying being engaged right now.”
“We’re taking it slow.”
“We don’t know yet — and that’s okay.”
You don’t have to explain yourself. You don’t have to justify your timeline. You don’t have to make decisions faster just to make conversations easier.
It’s Okay If You’re Over Talking About It
Engagement season has a way of making your entire personality feel like it’s been reduced to The Wedding™. And sometimes you just want to talk about anything else. Your job. Your trip. The show you’re watching. Literally anything.
That doesn’t make you ungrateful. It makes you human.
You’re allowed to change the subject. You’re allowed to set boundaries. You’re allowed to enjoy a holiday gathering without mentally planning your seating chart.
From Someone Who Sees This Every Year
Every holiday season, I watch couples feel this exact way — excited and overwhelmed at the same time. And the ones who end up feeling the calmest later are the ones who don’t rush the beginning.
January will come. Planning will happen. Nothing is falling apart just because you didn’t figure everything out between Thanksgiving and New Year’s.
If You’re Feeling This… You’re Not Alone
So if you catch yourself thinking, If one more person asks about the wedding… take that as your sign to pause, breathe, and give yourself some grace.
Enjoy being engaged. Protect your energy. Let things unfold when you’re ready.
The wedding will come together — promise. And you don’t have to sacrifice the holidays (or your sanity) to get there.
If this post felt a little too relatable, you’re not alone.
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